The children can be overlooked when parents' emotions are raw, the children can even be used as pawns in the domestic "battle". You will be encouraged by your Solicitor, the Court and other individuals who may become involved with your family, to put the welfare of the children at the top of your list. Arrangements for them should be reached by agreement wherever possible. The Court will intervene where agreement cannot be reached. There is opportunity for both parents to receive guidance from mediation/conciliation services.